A Good Spanking

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I like spanking (a lot), because where I’m quite loud/dominant in my everyday life, I actually much prefer feeling more submissive in the bedroom,’ she tells us. The key is that the spanking must be administered in a calm, loving environment. Remember, the focus is on helping a child to learn appropriate behavior, as opposed to simply satisfying a parent’s frustration in the heat of the moment. 2. All children are different The most recent research out of the University of Texas compiled over five decades of study data. The experts came to a rather startling conclusion: Spanking causes similar emotional and developmental harm as abuse to children. Labrecque, F., et al. (2020). What is so appealing about being spanked, flogged, dominated, or restrained? Answers from practitioners of sexual masochism/submission. The authors also note that some scientific theories suggest that SM practices, such as spanking, may help some people heal from trauma.

You’ll be hard-pressed to find any large-scale research that shows spanking to be effective in changing behavior and having no negative effects. But there are some studies out there that suggest spanking administered by “loving, well-intentioned parents” in a “nonabusive, disciplinary” environment can be an effective form of punishment. According to spanking therapy practitioners, they may use their hands to spank the lower, inner quadrant of the bottom. Every major health organization has come out against spanking. And several international organizations have even issued a call for criminalizing corporal punishment. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) strongly opposes striking a child for any reason. According to AAP, spanking is never recommended. The experts are all in agreement on this fact: Research shows that spanking does more harm than good. 2. Spanking teaches aggressionPower play: People may find it sexually arousing to play with power roles, such as becoming dominant or submissive. Others may also find it freeing to release responsibility and power in a controlled environment. Clear communication is important, so the practitioner understands what people are hoping to get out of the session and the acts with which they can remain comfortable. But personally, I’m not in favor of it. My daughter is now 3 years old, and it’s never been something I’ve been comfortable with. I have friends who spank, and I don’t for a second judge them for that fact.

A good spanking session releases endorphins that give you pleasure (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk) Spanking therapy may be an option for anyone of an appropriate age to take part in consensual BDSM practices. Spanking, even by parents, is illegal in many countries. Even if it's legal in your country, your city/municipality or region may have banned it. A survey among 4,500 participants, conducted by Lovehoney, revealed that 75% of women and 66% of men like hands-on (bum) action in the sheets. Consider spanking only if you have tried all other options. Spanking should always be a last resort, after issuing non-physical punishments like timeouts, grounding or denial of privileges. Before you announce the spanking, be 100% positive that you need to hit your child.Wuyts, E., et al. (2020). Between pleasure and pain: A pilot study on the biological mechanisms associated with BDSM interactions in dominants and submissives [Abstract]. When I didn't see you in the store, I was scared. I need you to stay close by so I know you're safe and not lost."

According to an article in The Journal of Sex Research, people may engage in spanking therapy for a range of reasons, such as :According to a study from 2009, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, this sensation can differ depending on your role in the spanking scenario. Beyond just being pleasurable, spanking can also be connected to memories, a psychological theory known as ‘imprinting’ (no, not in the way it’s described in the Twilight books).

Another component released in the body during this act is endorphins – also known as the happy hormone – and you’ll also see a boost in cortisol levels, which reduces feelings of stress. Give yourself a time out if you get angry with your child. Parenting is hard, and it's normal to get frustrated or mad sometimes. If you feel like you're going to explode, step out of the room to calm down. You can discipline your child once you are level-headed. Consent is an ongoing process, and a person can change their mind and withdraw their consent at any time.Praise the child for good behavior. Let them know that you appreciate it when they behave well and help them feel good about it. This motivates them to do it more often. Here are some examples of good praise: After a spanking, the child may think that they are a bad person, or that you don't love them. These misconceptions can lead to even worse behavior later on. [14] X Research source