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Once you have the qualities written down, you could try expanding each one by writing a line or two about an example from your life where you demonstrated that quality. Whatever you do or say impacts how others respond and vice versa. This simple and unquestionable observation is what Horsley and Fourie draw on when giving this tip: Self-compassion is the practice of extending kindness toward yourself. It’s about being there for ourselves and empowering ourselves to alleviate our own suffering.” He introduces the concept of a Want Brain and the idea that purchasing what we want will make us happy.
It can be as simple as jotting down a few thoughts before you go to bed. If putting certain things in writing makes you nervous, you can always shred it when you’ve finished. It’s the process that counts. Having worked on self-compassion for several years, the voice I now hear in my head is exceptionally kind. I realize my competitiveness came from a place of not feeling enough in who I was, which in turn came from ideas I had formed in childhood. That belief served me when I was small. It helped me get the validation I was seeking from the world around me. But as an adult and a father, it was harming me by pushing me to do more than I could bear. These days, I love the person I see in the mirror, and I always feel good about myself, whether I win or lose. And this has had a huge impact on my life. Yes, I feel happier and more content, but I also find it much easier to stay engaged and be consistent with any lifestyle changes I am trying to make. Chapter 1 is a great overview of the typical ideas of happiness that will make you feel ok about being difunctionally happy. Then they gently turn your happy world upside down to shake out all the stuff to make way for some universal truth that is designed to change your MIND. Such as, happy people, “…don’t think is contradictory and conflicting patterns. They aren’t at war with life…” A nice feature I like is that you don’t have to guess what to take with you from the book, there is relevant bold print throughout the book of some of the best pointers. To that, my favorite section was #6 in the Happiness is…chapter entitled, “HAPPY PEOPLE INVEST IN THEIR OVERALL WELLNESS. Right on point, because if you are busy taking really good care off yourself physically, spiritually and financially, what room do you leave for foolishness that brings unhappiness? At first, I didn’t think this book was as good as the author’s previous ones, which I loved. Perhaps I didn’t find the beginning of the book very good. But I soon began to appreciate it. This conversation with Dr Mark Williamson was recorded at an Action for Happiness event on the 28th of June 2022.If we think happy thoughts, we will be happy. If we think miserable thoughts, we will be miserable Dale Carnegie 3. Let go of your baggage For those stressors you can’t avoid, remind yourself that everyone has stress — there’s no reason to think it’s all on you. And chances are, you’re stronger than you might think you are. Many of us have an inner tendency to want to see ourselves as the victim, even when the fault’s actually with us. This is human nature. Everyone lets themselves off the hook this way, to some extent. But victim-mindedness is terrible for our mental wellbeing. It weakens our core happiness by making us feel less content with the world and less in control. When we work to change our inner story, consciously taking ourselves out of the victim role, we become empowered. I do like Dr Chatterjee's books on the subject of health because they always feel very accessible and practical, like they are rooted in real life rather than a lofty goal you will never attain. And this one is no exception. This one is about mental health and some practical help about things you can do to help your own mental health, adjusting it for your life and circumstances. Dr Chatterjee does make the point that trauma and tragedy are different issues and the book is more for the person who is experiencing a low level of stress all the time because modern world and all that. If you want to eat with your mood in mind, consider starting with making one food choice for your mood each day.
For example, swap a big, sweet breakfast pastry for some Greek yogurt with fruit. You’ll still satisfy your sweet tooth, and the protein will help you avoid a midmorning energy crash. Consider adding in a new food swap each week. 5. Practice gratitude A journal is a good way to organize your thoughts, analyze your feelings, and make plans. And you don’t have to be a literary genius or write volumes to benefit. Humans are largely considered social beings, and while the research is mixed on how exactly socialization impacts happiness, the consensus is that having social relationships can make us happy. The “new brain,” or neocortex, is the location of our intellectual capacity and rational decision-making capabilities. This is evolutionarily the more sophisticated part of the brain. The problem is that in many life situations, this “new brain” is still a servant to the old, instinctual one, and not the other way around. This can often be easier said than done. But remembering that you are not necessarily doing it for another person or other people may help you be more open to beginning the process.Being given the ARC of The Happy Mind made me, well, happy, because this kind of book is completely my jam. I'm not normally a big reader of self help type books, but I will always take the time for anything that has to do with the search for happiness. Isn't that we are all looking for, happiness? I believe so, even if some people claim not to - I just suspect that our search for happiness might look different from each other. If reaching out is not an option, try getting your feelings out in a letter. You don’t even have to send it to them. Just getting your feelings out of your mind and into the world can be freeing. You can even shred the letter afterward if you want to. 27. Plan a trip Whether you're at a crisis point or simply want to experience more joy, Rangan's insights will help you feel calmer, more confident and better able to live your life to the full.
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