What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

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I found this book very.... long. The sad part about this misconception on my end is that I regularly listen to books that are 20+ hours long. I have even gone through War & Peace as well as Anna Karenina and those did not feel as long as this book. The narration was dry at best and I found myself just getting through this book through mostly sheer will power than due to any sort of interest. Remember, the greater the stress or discomfort, the greater the likelihood of pacifying behaviors to follow.

We might be sending signals without realizing it, or we might not put our best foot forward because we’re unaware of how we’re being perceived. Commandment 6: Always try to watch people for multiple tells—behaviors that occur in clusters or in succession. Take a Criminal Justice Cruise Course in Alaska | Saint Leo University". Archived from the original on June 9, 2010 . Retrieved January 5, 2019.

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Happy feet: Bouncing or rapidly moving feet indicate excitement or satisfaction, but can also communicate impatience. As it’s true for most situations with body language, you must understand the context to correctly decode the meaning. Joe Navarro says that while you can’t always observe the feet, this movement can also show in the torso and shoulders when seated. For example, we may allow close friends and family members to enter our personal space but keep strangers at a distance.

If language was given to men to conceal their thoughts, then gesture's purpose was to disclose them." When excited, we don’t restrict our arm movements; in fact, our natural tendency is to defy gravity and raise our arms high above our heads But when it comes to guessing when someone is deliberately lying, then… It’s no more than pure guesswork.

Ventral denial and ventral fronting: When things are good and we feel comfortable, we face our frontal body toward the person we’re speaking to. When things are not good and we don’t like the person or there’s a relationship change, or we don’t like the topic, then we will face away with our torso and belly. Weak shoulder displays: Shoulders coming up towards the head -the turtle pose- is a strong sign of major discomfort in the situation. The players of a losing team will do it, or the employees about to report on their accomplishments who haven’t had many accomplishments. 5. Nonverbals of the Arms Commandment 9: Knowing how to distinguish between comfort and discomfort will help you to focus on the most important behaviors for decoding nonverbal communications. A furrowed forehead is an easy way to assess for discomfort or anxiety. When we are happy and content, you hardly see this behavior. Secrets of Nonverbal Communication". Forbes. Archived from the original on February 24, 2018 . Retrieved January 5, 2019.

He says that's his best offer. Is it? She says she agrees. Does she? The interview went great—or did it? He said he'd never do it again. But he did. People lean toward each other when there is high comfort and agreement. This mirroring or isopraxis starts when we are babies. Joe Navarro says that the feet are the most “honest” part of the body because they are the first to be engaged in the freeze, flight or fight limbic response. While our faces can be very honest in displaying how we feel, they do not always necessarily represent our true sentiments. This is because we can, to a degree, control our facial expressions and, thus, put on a false front.If you are a parent, teacher, camp counselor, or school resource officer and you see children severely change or restrain their arm behavior around their parents or other adults, at a minimum it should arouse your interest and promote further observation. Cessation of arm movement is part of the limbic system’s freeze response. To the abused child, this adaptive behavior can mean survival.”

Or consider Chris Hughes, who used a simple gesture of respect to let him and his team walk away from an Iraqi ambush unharmed. We often don’t understand what other people’s bodies are trying to tell us, because we’re not good at reading them, but when we do, we can be sure what we find out is the truth.Leaning in or leaning away serves the same purpose: we lean in to show comfort and liking and we lean away to show discomfort and dislike. Fidgeting is any repetitive movement that we do when feeling uncomfortable. Common fidgeting behaviors include: Steepling: Steepling, a go-to move of Angela Merkel is, Joe Navarro says, one of the most powerful displays of confidence we have. On the other hand, interlacing fingers is a sign of low confidence, especially if couple of hand wringing. Observe in context: Body language is always observed within the context in which it takes place. Being nervous at a job interview for example is normal and it often dissipates. If nervousness shows again later on then you can wonder why Understanding non-verbal cues is a great talent. You can learn to be aware of the secret signals people reveal by their body language on daily basis. Joe Navarro spent his 25 years of life as an FBI agent specializing in behavioral assessment. After being retired, he wrote many books on body language, and one of the most important books is What Every Body is Saying. What Every Body is Saying Summary Key Points