8 Rules of Love: The Sunday Times bestsellling guide on how to find lasting love and enjoy healthy relationships, from the author of Think Like A Monk

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Al aplicar estas ocho reglas del amor de Jay Shetty aprenderemos a amar a nuestra pareja, al mundo y también a nosotros mismos

We’ve put romantic love on such a pedestal in society that we believe that even if you have an amazing relationship with your dad, mom, kids, siblings, and friends, but don’t also have romantic love, then you are incomplete. Don’t compare all these beautiful bonds that we have. Is the love you have for your children less important or more important than the love you have for your partner or your own parents? A lot of studies and research have gone into why being alone, being confident, and being single is not only better for you, but also better for your future partner. Professor and clinical psychologist Bella DePaulo says, “It’s a broad misconception that single people are to blame for the high levels of loneliness reported internationally.” In fact, studies show that overall, the longer people are single in life, the happier they become.Romantic love is at once familiar and complex. It has been seen and described in infinite ways across time and cultures. Psychologist Tim Lomas, a lecturer in the Human Flourishing Program at Harvard University, analyzed fifty languages and identified fourteen unique kinds of love. The ancient Greeks said there were seven basic types: Eros, which is sexual or passionate love; Philia, or friendship; Storge, or familial love; Agape, which is universal love; Ludus, which is casual or noncommittal love; Pragma, which is based on duty or other interests; and Philautia, which is self-love. An analysis of Chinese literature from five hundred to three thousand years old reveals many forms of love, from passionate and obsessive love to devoted love, to casual love. In the Tamil language, there are more than fifty words for various kinds and nuances of love, such as love as grace, love within a fulfilling relationship, and a melting inside due to a feeling of love. In Japanese, the term koi no yokan describes the sensation of meeting someone new and feeling that you are destined to fall in love with them, and kokuhaku describes a declaration of loving commitment. In India’s Boro language, onsra describes the knowledge that a relationship will fade.

When you are dating, when you are first getting to know someone, you’re looking for that inner spark. But in the end, it’s their character that will keep that relationship intact. We often don’t really know the character of our partner, we only know their personality. Character is different—it’s how they behave when they’re stressed, when they’re fatigued, and when they’re in a bad mood. When you see someone’s personality, you see what you like, but when you see someone’s character, you see the more difficult, challenging parts of them. But Jay Shetty points, and wonderfully so, how love is like a flower, which both sides, as well as yourself in your own free time, have to water to grow, and nurture, and how there's different kinds of love. I love how much importance is placed on finding your own dharma(purpose) and the self love as well as communication with our partner, as well as everyone else in our lives. Inspirándose en la antigua sabiduría védica y en la ciencia moderna, Shetty nos comparte sus ideas sobre cómo definir el amor, cómo evolucionar en pareja o, incluso, cómo romper una relación y empezar otra. Jay Shetty nos muestra cómo evitar las falsas promesas y las relaciones que no son para nosotros. Aku ngeh banget gimana usahaku buat nggak mengulangi pola yg sama dg kekurangan orangtuaku (makanya aku baca buku kayak gini..). Tapi rupanya tanpa sadar aku juga punya standar yg nggak aku cantumin dalam ceklisku. Misalnya nih, karena dibesarkan dg ayah yg hobi ke museum & toko buku, aku jadi nyari partner yg juga bakal enjoy kalau ku ajak ke sana. I want to feel that kind of excitement dg orang yg kusayang & yg sayang dgku.Most of my friends were in relationships. I basically felt single without Isla, and I didn’t want to be lonely, so I decided to join her. Instead of thinking about the pros and cons of moving—What were his job prospects? What was he leaving behind in Philadelphia? Who did he know in Austin? Did he like it there? Would this step benefit his relationship?—Leo was primarily focused on avoiding loneliness. Overall, I can endorse this book for young people who have not already read a hundred other titles with similar messages. Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we’re often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now."