BDSM: The Ultimate Handbook for the Dom and Sub: Training for Pleasure (Pain and Pleasure 1)

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As mentioned, the nice thing about the rule-set was that it allowed a lot of leeway on whether or not submissive would be happy following the instructions. It also consisted of rules that it would follow on the days that at work as well as the days that at home. Collar and Jewelry:

Being both a Dominant and a submissive means being uncomfortable, being vulnerable, open, honest, truthful, respectful, have a sense of humor, and a willingness to fail and grow from those failures. Some of you know and have known for a long time that you were one or the other. Some of you may have times where you feel Dominant and at other times submissive (this is called a Switch). Wherever you fall, just be really honest with yourself about who you are and know that whoever you are and however you identify, you is amazing and never let anyone make you feel otherwise. Coming up next... When Sir is finished with the toy, or when I am cleaning up the room afterward, I am to take the toy to the closet where it is kept and hang it very deliberately in its designated spot. I stop the swaying with my hands, then bend at the waist to kiss the item, as He watches. He then closes the closet door. The misunderstandings around what it means to be a male submissive can lead to awkwardness when expressing your kink with a new partner who may not necessarily be part of the BDSM world. Many times, a Dominant will use small tasks to test a submissive’s willingness and ability to obey. When the Dominant sees how the submissive responds to these tasks, they have a better idea of whether they want to continue the relationship and/or how much training the submissive will require. As a submissive, the why for a rule being in place or why I am being given some, what I think is, a random task is very important to me. I happily comply with small, seemingly insignificant tasks. The Dominant should explain why menial tasks are assigned or why they are required. When the submissive understands the purpose, they will be happier to comply. Sir:Use of the word Sir was discussed online before we had even initially met. He indicated I could call Him whatever I wished, but desired Sir for intimate moments. As we grew closer, it applied whenever He was asserting His dominance, be it out in public, online or on the phone and I show my acceptance and submission with the honorific response.A voyeur is someone who enjoys watching others have sex, undress, or whatever floats your erection boat. Voyeurs can get a bad name, because we think of peeping Toms, but there are lots of wonderful ways for a voyeur to consensually engage with their kink, such as going to a play (sex) party or kink event. Voyeurs watch the exhibitionists and everyone wins.

It’s been a fantastic journey to reread old articles and see the value from the other side of the slash and I wanted to share with you the key posts that stand out to me as valuable insights into a submissive and the D/s relationship that many are seeking. When you’re on the receiving end of this type of punishment you may be asked to count the number of strikes. Counting aloud can really drive home the importance of the rule and the consequence for breaking it. One common characteristic among most submissives is that they crave guidance and direction especially in the bedroom. Until reading this you would probably believe that you were communicating sufficiently to your submissive. Most vanilla men actually say very little during sex if anything at all and are probably only used to making statements regarding their wife’s attributes. “You are so beautiful.”“You have a sexy body.”“You are so wet.” Caning- This type of spanking happens when the blows are delivered by a thin cane made of rattan across your behind. The cane can be a single rod or a bundle.

Some Rules for the Working Submissive

People suffering from psychological problems can learn better ways of coping with them, thereby relieving their symptoms and becoming more effective in their lives" * Smut Drop is a weekly podcast with host Miranda Kane from Metro.co.uk, touching on sex, dating and relationships. First, let me say that the type of submissive I'm talking about here is a relationship submissive; someone who is subordinate in everyday things. A bedroom submissive or a kinky bottom is something entirely different. Anyone and I mean this, anyone can be a bottom for a short period of time. You can be submissive for weekends or set amounts of time. I'm not going to cover this form of submission in this article. Condition 1. If I am unable to do the task due to location, I may request to postpone the task until I am in a location where performing the task is appropriate. When you’re working full time, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances their full-time employment with their submissive role, one of their most concerns will always be finding a way to please their dominant while maintaining a strong professional image outside of the home. Regardless, it was difficult to find any information about balancing a professional life with the submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the business world.