Confusing Love With Obsession: When Being in Love Means Being in Control

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My own experiencing has been that both women and men can have problems crushing on another and that crushing turning into something unhealthy, like obsession. According to this idea, there are six types of love, and each type has apparent characteristics and traits.

Another feature is that the obsessed person does not know how to let go of an individual or the intrusive thoughts. What should I do to help those who suffers from confusion of these two to understand whether they're in love or they're obsessed towards that someone? Moreover, afflicted individuals often blame themselves for other reasons, rather than for being manipulative and controlling. In the beginning of a relationship, its not uncommon to experience fireworks [laughs] for the first couple of years. In the book Confusing Love with Obsession, Moore (2010) introduces the Obsessive Love Wheel, a chart that displays various stages or types of obsessive love.

During this stage, some individuals start to romanticize the personality of the object of their affection or focus solely on physical traits. It is often followed by feelings of anxiousness and jealousy and may lead to one of the partners becoming possessive or manipulative. While sex may be an important aspect of love in the beginning of the relationship, it becomes less important over the long term.

It was surprising to learn that there are many types of obsessive behavior and that they all can be described in a number of stages. These stages include the attraction phase, the anxious phase, the obsessive phase and finally, the destructive phase – which I illustrate in my book through the Obsessive Love Wheel. Similar to Stacy’s situation, my friend was in a relationship with a girl, who gradually became more and more controlling. Pragmatic love is cooperative, as it promotes comfort and agreement for both sides of a relationship.I recently sat down with this super sexy doctor and consultant to the stars in an interview before he left California for a flight back to Chicago. The plots in both of those movies involve someone developing an unhealthy and even delusional attachment towards another. More important, Confusing Love with Obsession helps readers develop a new self-awareness and healthy relationship--free from preoccupation with an object of obsession.

the very thing the obsessed person does not want to happen, meaning a break up, happens because they cause it.And for the boyfriend boyfriend, he usually indicates he is miserable, feels trapped and very unhappy. Romantic Love is a multi-factorial phenomenon that involves an intense attraction towards another with emotional, psychological and physiological features.

Fueled by an overwhelming fear of abandonment, people involved in obsessive relationships will go to extreme lengths to control their partner. In this scenario, two people have mutually shared feelings towards one another, to a lesser or greater degree and are supportive of each other. Looking at the situation from a different perspective, it is clear that this type of relationship brings discomfort and distress to both partners. If being in love means living in constant fear of him cheating, you are confusing love with obsession.This stage is characterized by extreme levels of distrust from one partner that is based on a fear of the other partner ending the relationship. I also related to the feelings of withdrawal listed when the person you are obsessed with is gone from your life.