Ask Me His Name: Learning to live and laugh again after the loss of my baby

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Because by this point it was into the summer, I was a year and a bit after losing Teddy, and I felt so much stronger. Three days after delivering him into the world, she sat with Teddy as he took his last breaths, and tucked him in for the final time. They’re still here, they’re still living and breathing, they’ve got a whole life ahead of them, we need to make sure this isn’t weird forever.

So I just say it to people, and sometimes I get them looking anywhere else but at me, and sometimes people are brilliant. Because I feel like we’re at a place in life if someone says to you ‘Oh I’ve been diagnosed with cancer’ there would have been a point in time where there would be a death sentence hanging over their head and we wouldn’t say anything. I particularly liked how Wright has written this, of course this is about Teddy and her life after his death and yet Wright does not dwell on what happened, yes there is an overview but this is more about emotions and thoughts that were experienced and moving on and looking to the future. All sponsored and paid posts will always be clearly stated as such, but, as always, I only ever include brands, services and products that I absolutely love. Talking about loss is a difficult subject and one that many people to this day do not like to speak of or know how to talk to someone who is grieving.Then friends and family were writing to me, saying ‘My sister’s baby just died, what do I say to her’, ‘How do I mark the baby’s first birthday’, and all of these things. Just a few hours after giving birth, they woke to find a nurse holding a cold and unresponsive Teddy, who had stopped breathing during the night. Ultimately this is a personal story and others who lose a child will perhaps deal with their experiences in a different way so this isn’t a ‘How to deal with grief’ book. Part of what the book is about, is to educate as much as we can, so maybe down the line, I’m saving other people from having to go through those emotions. So she’d followed me on Instagram, she’d read my other posts, and [she asked me] would I ever consider writing a book?

I loved this book, it made me cry and smile but most of all it is the most real and heartwarming book due to Elle’s love for her little boy Teddy! I’ve followed Elle’s story long before even thinking about starting this account and I often think about this story whilst at work with other parents and babies within the NICU.This book is not a 'take these steps and you will be 100% fine' type of read, it is an honest account from a mother who has pure love for her son and wants to provide other people (not just mums) with a little helping hand. I liked the end chapters from the perspective of the sad and extended family and perhaps these could have been more detailed. This was clearly a labour of love, and no doubt writing it has been part of the therapeutic recovery process for the author. There’s far too much ‘I’m not going to say anything, because I don’t want to make that person feel sad, or that person feel awkward. So maybe I go at it from a selfish perspective now, and think ‘Why should I have to swallow my words and my opinions so you don’t feel awkward?

In the UK, 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss, but conversations about the heartbreakingly frequent experience are few and far between.To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average.

I literally went from room to room just doing that, and taking photos of it and putting it on Instagram, not with the intention of starting a blog at all, just because I needed it for my own sanity.

Honest, heart breaking and yet beautifully uplifting account of Elle and her baby boy Teddy, whom she did not get to bring home. I knew a little of Elle’s story and how she lost her son, Teddy at just 3 days old but didn’t know the full circumstances around his birth and his loss.